How can you have charisma? Be more

How can you have charisma? Be more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are making them feel good about you. – Dan Reiland
I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism – Charles Schwab
To make yourself the kind of person who attracts others, you need to personify these pointers:
1. Love Life. John Wesley said, “when you set yourself on fire, people love to come and see you burn.”
2. Put a “10” on Every Person’s Head. Benjamin Disraeli said, “The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches but to reveal to him his own.”
3. Give People Hope
4. Share Yourself.
If people are not naturally attracted to you, and you are not well liked, you may possess one of these roadblocks to charisma:
• Pride. Nobody wants to follow a leader who thinks he is better than everyone else.
• Insecurity. If you are uncomfortable with who you are, others will be too.
• Moodiness. If people never know what to expect from you, they stop expecting anything.
• Perfectionism. People respect the desire for excellence, but dread totally unrealistic expectations.
• Cynicism. People don’t want to be rained on by someone who sees a cloud around every silver lining.
To improve your charisma, do the following:
• Change your focus. Observe your interaction with people during the next few days. As you talk to others, determine how much of your conversation is concentrated on yourself. Determine to tip the balance in favor of focusing on others.
• Play the first impression game. Try an experiment. The next time you meet someone for the first time, try your best to make a good impression. Learn the person’s name. Focus on his interests. Be positive. And most important, treat him as a “10.” If you can do this for a day, you can do it every day. And that will increase your charisma overnight.
• Share yourself. Make it your long-term goal to share your resources with others. Think about how you can add value to five people in your life this year. They can be family members, colleagues, employees, or friends. Provide resources to help them grow personally and professionally, and share your personal journey with them.